"There was a time when all my hair had fallen out, I wasn't getting my period and I had lost my breast, I just felt I'd lost my femininity.”
It’s unexpected to hear someone say they feel lucky to have had cancer, but that's Jen is the eternal optimist. Jen was just 21 when she was first diagnosed with breast cancer. Her diagnosis was a shock for her, her family and even her doctors. She was young and had no family history. One of her doctors described it as "being struck by lightning, a one in a million chance."
Jen first felt a lump in her breast in January 2007, but she dismissed it.
"There was no chance cancer crossed my mind at that stage and I forgot about it."
A month later she noticed it again. Jen asked her mum and boyfriend Che for a second opinion and they could feel it too. Jen's mum told her she to see a GP.
"Every medical professional I saw, and there were over ten of them, told me I shouldn't be too worried, but fortunately every single one of them referred me on 'just in case'."
Incredibly the lump she first felt was a normal part of her breast and had nothing to do with the cancer the doctors did eventually find.
"Someone must have been looking out for me."
The cancer was diagnosed as non-invasive and the doctors told her she would need a mastectomy and a breast reconstruction.
"I was obviously in shock, but the doctor said to me you'll have surgery, they'll get it out and you'll be right to go."
But there was more bad news to come.
"After the operation I went in for a doctor's consultation which I thought would be my last appointment. The doctor came out and said I'm really sorry, but it is invasive cancer."
Not only was the diagnosis daunting, but Jen was told treatment would cost over $75,000. Due to incredible support however— from some good friends who were willing to shave off their hair, supportive companies, the Hamilton community, her family and her boyfriend Che—Jen managed to raise all of the money. Jen said keeping positive and the help of her family was what got her through.
"Che stood by me the whole way and my mum was just amazing, she came to every single appointment with me."
There were however some hard times. Especially when Jen found out the chemo might make her infertile.
"There was a time when all my hair had fallen out, I wasn't getting my period and had lost my breast, I just felt I'd lost my femininity … Che was amazing though, and once said 'it's ok babe, there are worse things to lose than a breast and we are going to get through it'."
Jen said one of the best things about her cancer journey was the inspiring people she met along the way, including a group of young women she mentored through cancer.
"I thought if I got cancer and could help other people through their journeys then it must have happened for a reason."
Jen and Che got married in February and have just had their first baby.